Why Unhappy Marriages are a Real Health Problem & What You Can About It

Today we are going to learn the truth about what happens when people stay in unhappy marriages. Dana Adam Shapiro has done research on this question for his book “You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married.’ He has found that only 17% of married people are happy, which means that 83% of married couples are unhappy. Why did this happen? According to Shapiro, the main reasons were: lack of communication, dishonesty, and adultery.

Daniel Hawkins and Alan Booth wrote an article, “Unhappily Ever After: Effects of Low-Quality Marriages on Well-Being” published in Social Forces, a peer-reviewed journal based on the tracking of unhappy marriages over 12 years.

For anyone who has been in an unhappy marriage, these findings will resonate:

1. Significantly lower levels of overall happiness, life satisfaction, self-esteem, and overall health.

and

2. Elevated levels of psychological distress.

One question that always comes to my mind when I find myself working with couples is whether or not the relationship is a healthy one with some workout-able problems or if it is a marriage that is at its core unhealthy for both partners?

Now, given that I am indeed a hypnotist, there is a process known as future pacing that can tell me the answer to this question from the mouths of my clients. While in a deep hypnotic trance state, they go out into their future and see if their partner is still there or has disappeared. Because the unconscious mind of the client realizes what is going to happen out there in the future better than the conscious that ‘thinks it knows what it wants.’

But what if you could prevent this from occurring in your marriage in the first place?

What if you could know yourself well enough, love yourself enough to be able to attract a person who also knows themselves well enough and loves themselves enough to call in the ‘right person’ to begin with?

What if you could learn how to better communicate first to yourself and then to your loved one — instead of pretending to know more than you do about both of you?

What if were possible to accept yourself and your partner for who you both are, instead of deciding that one or both of you aren’t good enough?

What if you could create a situation where unconditional love and acceptance could be your foundation?

It is quite possible to allow this to be your truth, however, to allow that to come forth we need to know what we need to clean up first in regard to our own thinking and then in regards to how we communicate with our partner.

If you would love the opportunity to learn how to better understand yourself and your partner, do join me in the Dominican Republic Oct. 2–4, 2021 where a small group of no more than 12 people will be working through these learnings and processes at my 3-Day retreat: Bringing True Love to Your Primary Relationship — You will be staying at the beautiful Villa Serena Holistic Hotel and Retreat Center right on the water. Here is where you may get more information about the retreat:

https://dawningvisions.com/upcoming-events/

Both singles and couples are invited to the retreat.

Because in the end, we do know that our relationships matter more than any other indicator for our overall health and wellbeing. So, you may as well give that relationship of your utmost attention, right? And, have yourself a lovely much-needed getaway at the same time.