The Best Way to Get Rid Of Trauma?

Today we are going to get very real about the addiction that many folks have to ‘drama and trauma.’ It is a true addiction that some may have witnessed in their own lives and the lives of others. The way we understand this addiction is by witnessing how some people are always involved in a drama — meaning that there is something that they are constantly managing in terms of stressful situations that concern other people. Trauma is the experiencing of feeling that one’s life is being harmed and may be at risk.

When people have experienced drama and trauma in their lives especially from early in life — young childhood — they find themselves involved in these negative relationships as a means of protection. A means to find love and care from others. Their brains are literally addicted to drama and trauma.

So, when I receive questions on Quora from folks who want to know what they need to do to let go of the trauma, my answer is always based on the necessity of finding the outside help that is required because like most addictions, one is unable to stop it on one’s own — that is just a reality.

So, then the question becomes What is the best way to let go of the trauma? My answer is that the best way to let it go is through neuro-linguistic programming techniques because they work between seconds to minutes to de-sensitize the traumas and then hypnosis to do the inner child work and forgiveness work that allows one to put all the trauma in the past.

Now, one may believe that conventional therapy is the way to go, and I would say that is the worst way to go because by talking about the traumas repeatedly one is just reliving it and in so doing further imprinting it into one’s subconscious mind, making the trauma worse. That is unless you see an EMDR specialist who will need to see you for 8–12 sessions based on what one of my current clients is doing because it was recommended by her victim advocate attorney to prove the trauma she had undergone by an old boyfriend who she is lodging criminal charges against. (She has gotten strong enough through our work together to even be able to go through the negative feelings involved in bringing this guy to justice so he can’t hurt any other women as he did her).

EMDR will indeed desensitize trauma, but the problem is that it takes all those weeks to do, and one has only done one part of the healing process in reality because until the inner-child work is done where we heal the inner child so the inner child no longer needs to protect the older person through the ongoing causing of drama for receiving love from others in the person’s life, and until we do the forgiveness work, we are still holding on to the anger, hatred, and other negative emotions that need to be rid of for true healing to occur.

So, you may ask, How long does it take to do this trauma healing work to stop the ‘drama & trauma’ coming into one’s life? Well, to be honest, it depends on the amount of time it took place, how old the person was, and how many different types of trauma were involved and how the person processes information. So, the answer is from 2 longer sessions to a month on average.

The whole point of using hypnotic techniques of which NLP is one is to get the work done as quickly and thoroughly as possible. I can do the healing work only as quickly as the client is able to do the work. Each is different. Part of this has to do with how they process information as I stated above. So, if I have a visual learner, the processing goes very quickly. If I have a kinesthetic who has to get the feelings and then interpret the feelings into words, the process can take twice the time. It also depends on how much the client has to say during the sessions because we begin each session with an update so I can wrap any other issues that come up between sessions into that session to clear everything out as it comes up organically in the session.

So, if you are a person who is addicted to drama and trauma which you can now undersand based on the description above, you realize why it is that you need to get professional help to let it go once and for all.

You also realize that there are different methods in how this can be done and why I suggest the manner that I do to truly clear this out of your life so you can get on with living your ‘compelling future’ because, without a compelling future, life is very hard and depressing.

We all need to know that we are going to be doing those things that we truly want to do and experience in life to make life fun and fulfilling. And, that is why there is always a ‘compelling future’ attached to every client I work with — because that is the true goal of the work — not letting go of the negative issues — that is far too little to be done in my opinion. The true goal of any work I do with my clients is to get them living fun and fulfilling lives based on what is important to them.