What Exactly Are You Focusing Your Energy On?

Suzanne Kellner-Zinck
3 min readJul 11, 2022


Today I want to speak about what truly matters in this life…because it is all too easy to get stuck in our own minds believing that our thoughts have anything to do with reality.

You see, you think these thoughts, and those thoughts are what create your reality here in the physical world. So, they are very important, though many of them are based on the environments in which you were brought up, and the environments in which you currently live and work.

So, what are the thoughts that you are creating in your mind…because you know…YOU DO CREATE those thoughts in your head.

Are these thoughts of what a terrible person you are?

Or, are they thoughts of how kind and loving you are and in so receiving kind and loving acts back in response?

Are these thoughts of how incapable a person you are?

Or, are you telling yourself that you are able to do whatever you choose to if you really put your mind in to it? Because you are able to figure it out on your own or know someone you can ask to help you to achieve whatever you need or want to achieve?

The problem that too many people in the developed world have is that they spend an inordinate amount of time doing what I call “contemplating their belly button.” Meaning thinking only about themself without a real notion about what may be going on in those other peoples’ lives…those people that they truly believe they love and care about…yet have no emotional space to love and care about anyone else because they are so focused on their own survival for that is the only reason for a person to be so focused on ‘the self.’

When one lives among cultures where true survival is the reality, where the only way to make it is to collaborate with one another, there is no time for contemplating the belly button. And you know what? These people may have 1/100 or less of the material goods that those in the developed world have, but they have something so much more important…true loving and caring toward those who they collaborate with to get their basic needs met…because many of these people don’t even have running water, or electricity in their homes, things you take for granted every day. And, yet they are dancing during their evenings and weekends with their kids in tow. I see it here in Mexico on a regular basis. Their kids are a part of their lives because they have to be — not to be tossed over to some other adult to be cared for because…you know…there are other things you may want to do and a kid or two will just be in the way…

It’s time to get real with yourself realizing that all that belly button contemplation is a waste of your life…let it go…it doesn’t matter…not at all if you are being totally honest with yourself that is …

And allow yourself to actually see, hear, and feel what another may have to share with you…you know that person who claims to love you…but you can’t let in because….you are so stuck on yourself that there is no place for them…until perhaps RIGHT NOW!



Suzanne Kellner-Zinck

Hypnotism is Suzanne’s profession, specializing in working with kids and those with eating disorders and sex addiction.