Trust is the Most Important Ingredient in Any Therapeutic Relationship
Today I am going to speak about the importance of trust in any therapeutic relationship. This subject came up in a comment that I received from an answer that I wrote on Quora in response to a question regarding what one ought to expect in their first session for mental health therapy.
I had brought up other situations in which one needs to be aware when working with a therapist such as their need for time off as is true of any working person, and the need to sometimes terminate a patient because the fit is not good either in terms of personality conflicts or the therapist realizing that they don’t have the skills to truly help the person. These are two themes that many folks on Quora bring up in the area of mental health treatment.
However, the fact that the commenter stated that she had never thought about the importance of trust in such a relationship, and now realizes how important that is, never having thought about it before brings up a very important aspect of therapy.
One needs to understand that if there is a lack of trust in that relationship very little if any progress will be made. I tell my prospects upfront (before they are even my clients) that the only way that I can clear their issues (being a hypnotist) is for them to tell me what is going on with them in each session regardless of how scary or hard it may be. This folks, requires trust — lots of trust!
I gain my clients’ trusts by letting them know from the beginning that I may say things that they may find difficult to hear and at times become angry with me — and that is okay so long as we work it all through as that is the actual work of the therapy to be honest — after all the clearing has been accomplished.
I am also down-to-earth, share my own learnings and that of clients who share similar issues as theirs because the best way to understand that a process, technique, or reframe works is to prove that it has worked for others. This notion that everything has to be based solely on the client is ridiculous. If they knew all that they needed to know they wouldn’t be sitting in front of me, would they? I have been told by the great majority of my clients that this is the most helpful part of the work after getting rid of the ‘cause’ and ‘purpose’ for holding on to their issues. Because one must recognize the fact that if someone has been battling a serious mental health condition and now these problems are gone — that the person still needs to learn how to communicate with others in a manner in which they will be heard and respected — something most of my clients have rarely received because of the labels they have been given by the mental health professionals.
My clients also need to learn how to deeply listen to others so that they can have healthy relationships with the people in their lives. This is a skill set that needs to be learned by doing and receiving feedback from their natural course of interacting with others. In so doing they are learning how to create trust in their relationships with others.
Learning: Trust is the most important ingredient other than having the personalities mesh between the practitioner and the client to have a safe and productive therapeutic relationship. Without it, the time and effort spent will be wasted, and worse, ill feelings will be had probably on both sides of the relationship. So, make sure that when you get involved in working with a mental health professional that you feel comfortable with them and trust them to have your best interest in mind, always!
If you are a person who is feeling that you need help with issues that have yet to be truly dealt with in conventional therapy, by all means, contact me and we will set up a time for a free 45-minute Chaos to Clarity Conversation to see what we can do to release all that stuff once and for all.
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