My Personal Stories of My Times Being Trained & Healed By Everette ‘Tad’ James Who Passed Away in His Sleep Last Evening, Wednesday, April 14, 2021
Today I am going to dedicate this post to Dr. Everette “Tad” James who passed away of natural causes while sleeping on Wednesday, April 14th.
To be honest with you I had my highest highs during some of the training that I had with Tad and Adriana — most especially my 1st Advanced Personal Evolution Program (APEP), which I did with them in February of 2004 (without the prerequisite of taking Master Practioner NLP training as I was scheduled to do it that July). It was at that 1st APEP program that I did with them that Tad taught me the key to letting go of my manic depression (bipolar 2) go, forever! It was completed in all of 5 minutes. That my folks is a true story!
After that training, I did a Huna (ancient Hawaiian spirituality) training in New Zealand. I went because my mother was making me insane with her emotional abuse because… well, I wasn’t doing everything as she wanted me to do — meaning that her demands were ridiculous and therefore I was unwilling to deal with them. This made her very angry so she did her best to cause issues between myself and my then-husband -who was well aware of her mental health issues, so she had no impact on his feelings one way or another. However, the two of us were going through other issues where I was changing very quickly with all the intensive work that I was doing with Tad and Adriana that he couldn’t keep up with it all — this from his own mouth. Well, that trip did exactly what I knew it would do in helping me to release the issues with my mother in a 5-minute exercise with another student. I use that particular Huna process whenever I have difficult situations to contend with other people who are not able to be reasoned with because of their own issues as was the case with my mom.
Though receiving the result that I desired was amazing, there were so many wonderful trips that the James’s put together for us to learn about the Mauri people in whose Meeting House we did most of the Huna training right inside the Thermal City which was indeed in a geothermal area with the geyser that went off 24/7, the bubbling pools of water and mud — and of course the ethereal feeling when the day was humid and steam rose from the grass and streams — just amazing to behold! We went to a Mauri evening where they did their traditional dances and fed us their food cooked in their traditional method — underground for many, many hours and it was delicious!
Trainer’s Training was the next training I did with them and that was a hysterically funny situation because my handwriting is piss poor.
I was waiting outside the exam room for my best friend and ‘adopted older sister’ Dorothea, to complete her written exam (She got 100% for the record for her 6 hours of sitting for the exam).
Well, Tad comes out into the hall to find me sitting there on a bench against the wall outside their grading room. He asked me to come into the grading room. He sits me down and tells me that he can read almost anyone’s handwriting but not mine. So he asked me to read the exam to him — which I can laughingly say now I was totally unable to do — yes, my handwriting is THAT BAD especially after 2 hours of writing. My feeling is either I know the answer to the question or I don’t, so I don’t take forever taking exams, unlike Dorothea who used the entire 6 hours allotted.
The thing that helped me gain my much desired NLP Trainer’s Certificate nothing to do with the written exam, (there were indeed two practical parts to the exam where we had to do 2 separate pieces of training on the 2 NLP techniques that we were given to do along with the charts exactly as Tad wanted them to be rendered — (many thanks to Melanie Sacco for making my charts for me!).
No, the fact that I passed that Trainer’s Training had much more to do with the fact that I had delivered a very much respected program at the American Board of Hypnotherapy convention the previous February where Adriana James and Mary Lagon (their office manager at the time) knew that I would make a great trainer — this is the reason Adriana told me herself that though she knew I was getting divorced that my husband needed to pay for their Trainer’s Training because I would be unstoppable after learning all the ins and outs that the great trainers use including all the learning styles included. I have to say that Adiana was up my ass the entire training doing her best to install the thoughts and behaviors of a great trainer into me and I totally respected that fact. She wouldn’t waste her time on putting all that effort on me if she didn’t believe I had something special to offer — so all of you folks who can’t take a critical assessment from your teacher, trainer, or mentor, do ask yourself why it is that you are there receiving their input? Because for my money, I feel honored for all the time Adriana spent kicking me in the proverbial ass. It was relentless for the entire NLP part of the training — so about 2 weeks!
I did a 2nd APEP program with them soon after my divorce and it was there that my ex’s girlfriend at the time (now wife) was up his ass to get the divorce done already. It was ironic that as I sat there near the pool at the resort that this training was taking place in, that our phones kept cutting off. I basically gave my ex the reality that his girlfriend had no business in our marriage and therefore divorce and was no longer overrunning his boundaries regarding the situation and therefore no longer overrunning my boundaries.
I get into the training room and what is the 1st thing that Tad says to the small group of us present? “You are all here because your boundaries are being overrun and you are most probably overrunning other peoples’ boundaries as well. This is going to stop as a result of this APEP program.” There was a point when I was called up to his chair for a discussion and Tad was telling me that I was supposed to already be divorced by that point, to which I told him that I would be divorced as soon as we figured out the paperwork — meaning we had a glitch in how to separate my ex’s pension and that took a conversation with the Clerk of the Court. If we had thought of that sooner, we would have been divorced sooner, however, it gave me an extra year of his taxes from his job at Harvard to write off against my business so it was fine by me!
Mostly, though I want to honor Tad for having the brilliance to marry hypnotic, NLP, Huna, and learning techniques into his training because that is the difference that made the difference. I also want to add here, that given the NLP and Master NLP Practitioner programs that I took with Matt James back in 2003 and 2004 allowed me to learn via Tad’s teaching techniques as well as to have mentorship phone calls whenever I had a question as to how to apply a certain technique and even more important when to apply it. Without those 2 years of phone calls to make sure I was doing the work correctly, I might not have been able to become the hypnotist/NLP practitioner and trainer I am today. Because, folks — I know few people who can go through even a hands-on experience of a week or 2 weeks such as I did with Matt’s training, and know everything one needs to know in order to apply the information and the techniques appropriately.
I know that for me taking the year between Prac and Master Prac made all the difference as Master Prac training is where you learn how to take all the techniques you learned at the Practitioner level and create a treatment plan for another student’s 8-hour intervention which we did right there during the training.
This is why when I do my own mentorship-trainings in NLP and Hypnosis that my folks clear their own crap as a way to become healthier regardless of all the previous personal development work that they have done, as well as to have a visceral knowing of just how powerful these tools and techniques are in the correct practitioner’s hands.
I also welcome my trainees to call me with any questions they have in delivering their treatment to their clients so that they can learn the best way to handle the situation — meaning the simplest and cleanest way especially if they are without any formal education or work experience in mental health or physical health. This allows them to work within their scope of care and to know when to refer out when the case they are working on may be outside their ‘scope of care.’ As I always say, great intentions are not that great when they cause harm, so one must be careful in how one goes about doing this work and know when to ask for help or refer out to someone who is more experienced in the specific area of care.
Recently, I have had a few people ask me to help them help their own clients better by learning how to help them remove their clients’ blocks to money-making or feelings of being unworthy of having a profitable business, etc by teaching them how to confidently and appropriately add NLP & Hypnosis to their psychology, psychiatry, and business coaching practices. If you are at all interested in learning more, just Instant message me on messenger right here on Facebook with how you would like to use this work, your time zone, and a few dates and times when we can have a Clarity Conversation to see how I may best serve your needs. I will respond to you with the best time that fits my calendar.
Rest In Peace Everette “Tad” James — or better the only way I ever addressed him, simply ‘Tad.’
