In the beginning, the relationship was so amazing. But then… Things changed.

You began dating, you got into a relationship and you just felt so good. You felt loved and appreciated. Everything was well in the world.

But, at some point that ended. Things changed. You no longer are getting what you used to. You no longer feel loved and appreciated. There is sacrifice going on. And you are not sure why.

One of the greatest problems that couples deal with is believing that ‘being in love ‘ is the same as choosing ‘to be’ in love.

As a partner in such a relationship, you are settling for endless arguments, emotional manipulation, feeling unheard, feeling unseen, losing the ability to even know who you are and what you want in your life any longer just to stay in this destructive relationship.

That’s not what you were meant to have and you know it.

Listen to your inner voice.

Feel into what it is telling you.

Move in the direction that it is pointing in.

Because this is your highest level of self-knowledge.

As much as you want to believe that you are ‘in love’ there is a disconnect between how you are feeling about your relationship deep down inside.

If you are being honest with yourself. ‘choosing to be’ in love means being with someone who is supportive of you and your goals. There is an ease of communication because you share the same love languages, and where there are interests in common in which to have fun with one another.

Relationships are for,

Helping each other.

Cooperating.

Accomplish mutual goals you could not have on your own.

Raising families.

It is what brings a smile to your face when you think of your partner.

It is what compels you to be the best person that you can be.

Relationships are not for,

healing,

Plugging the hole you are missing within.

Compensating for lack ( lack of self, fears, lack of direction)

The individual who is willing to choose to be in love with the correct partner with every thought and action is going to find life better than they ever thought possible.

If you are not getting your needs met they must be addressed.

This is how you should go about doing it.

Ask your partner to sit down and talk.

begin with good things you appreciate about them and turn into mutual goals you would like to achieve together.

Once that is done you can calmly address the issues you have with the relationship. This order will minimize conflict and negative emotions.

Are you ready to have this conversation? What is stopping you from being real with your partner?