How Do You Get Over Someone Who Hurt You Badly Who is Prospering Now?

We are going to attack the issue of how to get over someone who has hurt you and is prospering in their own life. It is a question that a Quoran asked and this is how I answered it:

I read what others have given as answers and frankly, some of them seem to be a bit hurtful from the way I am reading them, so let me give you a more constructive answer to your very important question.

First, let me tell you that I have had my own share of people who have hurt me badly over the years, some of them inside my own family.

There is a role for forgiveness that needs to take place here. Realize that we don’t forgive people to help them, we do it to release the anger and hurt that we have received from that person. Too often when people hold onto these negative feelings they can make themselves sick, emotionally, physically, or both. I am sure that is something you would rather do without.

So, the first step is forgiveness and releasing them from your life.

Next send prayers or “love and light” to those who you feel hurt you because my guess is that they were hurt at some time as well. I know this is true of every single person who ever hurt me.

Finally, get on with those things that bring you joy. Hang out with people that share your interests. Meetups are everywhere, so go find a few to engage in. Call someone that makes you laugh. Put on some music to bring up your mood, or put on some comedies and get out of your head. Then reconcile yourself to the fact that you can make your life what you want if you concentrate on yourself and what you desire, instead of wasting your time and energy on a person in the past. That is the best way to go about it as far as I am concerned.

I engage myself in my own life doing those things that are meaningful to me. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have feelings arise at times where I wonder why it is that they have what they have. But it does mean that I get in touch with all the great things that I have in my life because all in all, I have had some fabulous experiences and know that there will be more right around the corner. Because, this is the thing about life — and something that you can see is demonstrated right here on Quora, especially when you read the majority of answers to the question:

What is there to like about America?

There are so many people who have answered these questions whose families lost all they had, lost many members of their family because of the wars that were going on in their countries, and yet, they had the where with all to leave their countries and come here to the U.S. and start anew even though it was the hardest thing to do in many cases. I bring this up, because, I believe it is important to understand that no matter what life brings you, there are always ways that we can approach things that can be constructive instead of destructive.

If you find yourself truly stuck, that is why there are people like me are out there. To help others to overcome their personal issues. In fact, I am going to leave you with this article to read that I wrote on forgiveness:

The Real Role of Forgiveness: Bringing Back Wellness:

http://dawningvisions.com/the-real-role-forgiveness-bringing-back-wellness/

Enjoy the read and go have a great life being who you are doing those things that you love to do!